Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough,” or “I’ll never get this right”? Those quiet, persistent thoughts often say more about what we truly believe about ourselves than about reality. The way we see ourselves, our self-belief influences everything from our career and relationships to our emotional and spiritual well-being.
The truth is, what you believe about yourself silently guides how you think, feel, and behave. If you’ve ever felt stuck, unworthy, or unseen, you’re not alone. But the good news is that these beliefs are not permanent they can be uncovered, challenged, and redefined.
That’s exactly what we explore in Episode 2 of my podcast, Relationships Redefined with Lola, titled “What Do I Really Believe About Myself?”.
Before we dive deeper, if you missed Episode 1 (Who Am I, Really? Discovering your Authentic Self), I strongly recommend you start there. In that session, we paused to acknowledge our emotions, reflect through journaling, and cultivate awareness of where we truly are right now. That first step matters because awareness lies at the foundation for transformation.
Now, Episode 2 takes us further — into the heart of beliefs.
Why Self-Belief Matters
Beliefs are like invisible glasses we wear every day. They filter how we see the world, ourselves, and even our relationships.
When we believe positive truths about ourselves, we walk with courage, love openly, and pursue opportunities. But when negative beliefs take root, they quietly sabotage us.
Maybe you’ve caught yourself thinking:
- “I’m too broken to change.”
- “I’ll never be enough.”
- “Others have it all together not me.”
These thoughts feel real, but they’re not the final truth. In fact, they’re often shaped by past experiences, childhood messages, or painful relationships not by your actual worth.
5 Powerful Truths to Overcome Negative Self-Beliefs
- Awareness Brings Freedom
You cannot change what you don’t see. Begin by gently noticing your thoughts without judgment. Ask yourself: Is this belief helping me grow or keeping me small? - Not Every Thought Is True
Just because a thought repeats itself doesn’t make it a fact. Negative self-talk often disguises itself as truth, but it’s merely a perspective that can be shifted. - Your Story Can Be Rewritten
You are not defined by your past or by others’ opinions. Your self-belief can be reshaped, step by step, into something that honours your authentic self. - Small Shifts Create Lasting Change
Choosing even one new, life-giving belief (“I am worthy of love”) and practicing it daily can begin to rewire your inner world. Transformation begins with small, consistent steps. - You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
Healing and redefining your self-beliefs is not a solo journey. Whether through therapy, community, or guidance, you can walk this path with support and safety.
How This Connects to Your Healing Journey
Episode 1 helped you see yourself clearly. Episode 2 invites you to believe differently about yourself. Together, they form the beginning of a healing journey toward self-management and inner peace.
If you’ve ever wondered why you keep hitting the same emotional walls, the answer may lie in the beliefs you carry. And by addressing them, you open the door to freedom, clarity, and healthier relationships.
A Personal Invitation
As a counsellor with years of experience supporting clients through these very struggles, I want you to know that healing is possible for you too.
If this blog speaks to you, I encourage you to explore my Services Page, where you’ll see the different ways I can walk alongside you whether individually, with your partner, or through structured healing pathways.
You don’t have to wrestle with these beliefs on your own. Let’s take the next step together.
Final Thoughts: You Can Rewrite Your Story
Your self-belief shapes your reality but it doesn’t have to remain stuck in negativity. By identifying, challenging, and replacing limiting thoughts, you can begin to step into the truth of your worth and potential.
This journey isn’t always easy, and you don’t have to walk it alone. That’s why I’ve created a range of services designed to support people like you: from one-to-one counselling, to couples therapy, to grief and trauma support. Each is tailored to help you confront unhelpful beliefs, rediscover your strengths, and unlock inner peace.
Listen to the Full Episode
🎧 Listen to Episode 2 – “What Do I Really Believe About Myself?” on Spotify and begin reflecting on your own self-beliefs. If you missed Episode 1, start there to build a strong foundation for your journey.
🕊️ This is your moment to pause, reflect, and gently redefine what you truly believe about yourself.